When my
boys come home from college, and they and their friends take up occupancy in my
garage studio, I force them to play a silly game I made up when they were
younger. It is called “Five Easy Pieces.”
The game originally consisted of naming five things. The first three
were “What would you would take from a burning house…your favorite books, art,
and music?” Then I would ask “What would
you do if you found out you were so insured that you had a million dollars?” The
final question was, “If someone had to describe you in one word or a short
phrase, what would it be?” This game led to a lot of really fascinating
conversations and arguments. Eventually we evolved it. Now people just point
and ask someone to name their five favorite musicians, TV shows, movies or
whatever someone else in the room aims at them. Anyone in the studio can stop
and say, “Five Easy Pieces,” and ask a question at someone. The results are still
fascinating.
Recently
friends on Facebook have been playing a game where someone assigns you a number
and you have to reveal that many things about you that no one knows. My friend,
Ron, gave me an easy number…3. I revealed that I was born left-handed but was
changed when I lived in Florida. I told that while I have a large American
Bulldog, one that I have to carry around because she is afraid of the rain, my
real pets are a three-generation family of
swallows that live outside my house that come to sit on my shelves and chirp at
me when I have the garage door open. The final thing I told was that I used to play
club soccer when I went to Illinois and played rugby for a bit too. I never did
sports as a kid, but under the encouragement of a friend I learned I could.
In the
spirit of “Five Easy Pieces,” here are two more things about me. I have one
foot that is about a size and a half bigger than the other one. My family
always teases me because I wear multiple layers of socks to make my shoes fit. The
last one is this. I can take a stack quarters and balance them on my folded
elbow, then flip them and catch them in an open palm. I was doing it the other
night and my son, Matthew, asked why I kept practicing that trick and I said,
“My grandmother taught me how to do this when I was nine. We saw a guy do it on
the Johnny Carson show.I figure if I still can do this then I can do anything
and everything else follows.”
The
other day I was going through photo albums and my Baby Book so that I could
send a picture to my older sister, Melissa, in honor of her birthday. I thought
of five words that I wanted to use to describe her. I came up with cute,
compassionate, caring, creative and cherished. Melissa has always been my
citadel. Whenever the world looked fuzzy, she was there to make it clear like
some beacon in the night.
I talked
to her today for about an hour and it was a joy to hear her voice again.
We
laughed a lot because she and I both have funny stories about our names that
most people don’t know. When she was born my mother wanted to call her
Elizabeth. My father insisted that she be called Melissa. Melissa was the name
of a little girl who used to come into the hospital where he worked in the
drugstore. She was always there because one of her relatives was upstairs and
she couldn’t visit. He made her sodas and sat with her. My mother and father would lovingly disagree
on many things but she let him have that one because she understood.
Later on
Melissa fixed the disagreement. When she got married to one of my best friends
and was confirmed in the Catholic Church she took Elizabeth as her saints’
name. Melissa Ann Elizabeth Corcoran is a hell of a good name.
My name
is Thomas Garl Sharpe. I was named partially after my father, Garl Murdock
Sharpe. As I got writing and this last summer started thinking about submitting things
for publication, I thought I would use my full name. Matthew, my middle son,
asked me to please not because when he is ready to publish something he
wants to use his full name, His name is Matthew Garl Sharpe. He carries it
proud. “Try to find something else, Dad,” he requested. “Tom Sharpe is fine, or maybe initials,” he said.”
I sighed and replied, “Yeah, but there is a popular British author that has the
same name of Tom Sharpe. I don’t want confusion...I really hope that someday soon this
is an actual problem for us to think about.”
When I
was I was going through my Baby Book I learned five things about my parents,
myself, and my siblings at the time. The first thing I learned was that when it
comes to Baby Books my parents, like many, were pathetic. How many pictures or
videos did you take of your children? According to how they kept my Baby Book
up, my life ended at five.
The more
I thought about it that was when more kids were entering our lives and we were
moving all of the time because Dad was getting successful. Now that I am a
father and was away from my kids a lot, I understand. I feel bad. Meredith, my
youngest, probably wonders why she does not have a good Baby Book or videos of
her. There’s lots of uncollected photos and now stuff about her all over the place on Facebook but none of that other stuff, which I think, because me and Karen are
present, she is pretty cool with.
Looking through my Baby Book, I learned how much my older sister cared about me even when I small. Here is us:
She
always kept me upright.
I also
learned about the code of you taking care of your younger siblings. This is me
and my younger sister, Stacia.
I am the the blonde kid in the middle who always wore dress shoes because his mother made him. She grew up just after the worst of the the Depression and never wanted me to have bad feet....like she did.
The most
striking thing I got from my Baby Book was that I was not, as I thought, named
after my father’s brother, who was named Norman, but was always called Tom. My
mother had a friend and liked the name. Wonder what that story is. She left us
too early; Dad is gone now too. I’ll never know.
I also
found out that my parents apparently had a disagreement about my middle name. I
never realized it but Dad did not want me to have to carry his name because it
is kind of different. Garl is a tough handle. A lot of people think I am just
misspelling “Carl,” …as they did for him too.
He had
something else in mind. Something not a whole lot better. I carry his first name
proudly, and I gladly gave it to my son. I do like what he
tried to do, because it was in tribute to his mother, who died when he was
three, and her maiden name.
I think
I have some more thinking to do but I also think Matt and I have resolved some questions.
I have published before but I‘m getting ready to publish in more serious places I think like my sister, when she adopted the
name Elizabeth, which I was proud of when she did, I will adopt a new name. In
honor of my son and my father, Thomas G. Murdock Sharpe is a damn fine name to publish
under.
I haven’t
exactly given you five things, but like with most things in the world I"m comfortable with that. The fifth one is always the hardest to answer.
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